Wednesday, February 2, 2011


I read a book by Francis Frangipane where he espoused an ideal of being beyond offense, beyond being hurt by what others think.... because you are so wrapped up in what God thinks, thinking His thoughts, feeling His emotions, following His ways.

And i think i'm slowly getting there.  But when i offend others by following Christ and His direction in my life, it does feel like a sucker punch.  I never see it coming.

Which may be what Courtney is writing about on her blog, Storing Up Treasures.   (Go read the post!)

She writes about people telling her she is easily offended, but that really, she is *offensive*.  People are put off by others who do things "differently".  And honestly, most of the pressure comes from church people.  I think because we are all looking at each other, hoping we look good in comparison, trying to take the good place at the table, hoping we won't be told to move down to make room for someone more important (Luke 14:7-11) ... and we don't want to look foolish, or make anyone else feel bad for not doing something (and then suffer the consequences socially), so we don't do it.

You know, i don't think i'm offended by others who are trying to be more Christlike or to get closer to God, even if their methods look weird to me - but i have been scared off.  It's been a lot of years of *thinking* about sponsoring a child through Compassion International.  I did it as a teen, and once we stopped being subsistence level, i wanted to do it, but i was surrounded by mega families who were sponsoring one child for each of their ten or twelve children, and unless i could do it like that, i didn't want to do it.

But i didn't want them to stop!  Finally, i got over that perfectionism :)...

But what i'm thinking is, that it's a sickness to wish someone to be spiritually dead just so that we won't feel guilty that we never read our Bible this week, haven't prayed for awhile, and don't ever consider God in our day to day activities.

May we all be unoffendable, and all take joy in each other's spiritual journey, each other's desires to be more and more... and more, like Jesus.

Jesus, who washed the feet of the disciples, watches me care for my little brood, and He not only smiles down at me, but He sends His spirit to minister to me and to them.  He arranges teachable moments where we can discuss the things that are on their hearts (and on mine).  This is my ministry, and it is beautiful in my eyes, and in His as well...

May you be blessed and take joy in the work God has put in front of you, too!

Luke 14:7–11

Parable of the Ambitious Guest
7 So He told a parable to those who were invited, when He noted how they chose the best places, saying to them: 8 When you are invited by anyone to a wedding feast,do not sit down in the best placelest one more honorable than you be invited by him9and he who invited you and him come and say to you, ‘Give place to this man,’ and then you begin with shame to take the lowest place10 cBut when you are invitedgo and sit down in the lowest placeso that when he who invited you comes he may say to you, ‘Friendgo up higher.’ Then you will have glory in the presence of those who sit at thetable with you11 dFor whoever exalts himself will be 3humbledand he who humbles himself will be exalted.”


  1. This is beautiful. The more that we know where we stand with God, the less we can be offended by anyone. Have you ever read Sayings of the Desert Fathers? I think you would get a lot out of them. I read them in seminary and they totally blew my mind. They take Christian discipleship to an extreme level. The question is always how can I win my neighbor to Christ by how I carry myself rather than how can I prove to other people how hard-core I am in being offensive to other people which is a perversion of what Jesus really meant when he said the world will hate you for being my disciples. The world will hate us for being His disciples, but no one will hate us more than the Pharisees who hated Jesus enough to crucify Him.

  2. thanks, exouthenemenos...
    I have read a little bit and what i've read, i love. I love the idea of being, like David "even more undignified than this" in the search to be wholly who and where God wants us to be.

    I love how you point out the distinction between pharisee and lover of truth - i knew there were reasons that certain things made me uncomfortable, but i never thought of it in those terms - if we want so much to be *right*, but don't care is truth is served, we will be pharisees. Thing is, i believe God is never threatened by heresy so much as people are - He is so faithful and loving and wants us all to come to repentance. Plus, He knows how small we are both in terms of our life span and our ability to comprehend what He knows.

    I trust Him to give me what i need to accomplish what He's set before me, and to be *with* me in the whole press of life...